Betty

Medical doctor stops relying on external validation and starts believing in herself

In Toronto Canada, Betty is a family doctor, wife and mother to two grown, happy and healthy daughters. Betty is incredibly driven, having dedicated the last 37 years to achieving significant milestones in her career and family life.

In spite of her many accomplishments, Betty felt there was still more work to do. She yearned to make improvements in her spiritual journey and interpersonal relationships. One day, the Science of Mindmagazine advertising Dr. Jayne and the Divine Intelligence Institute caught Betty’s eye. She couldn’t wait to sign up for the Process, excited by the prospect of a seasoned coach guiding her through a structured program.

The Process teaches each participant to explore and heal from difficult or traumatic experiences. At first, Betty was a little skeptical. She thought that because she led a successful, good life, she didn’t have any past issues to investigate and resolve. However, when Dr. Jayne offered to coach Betty in front of the entire class, all of that changed.

As Dr. Jayne skillfully asked questions, Betty began to chip away at her subconscious. She suddenly remembered a key episode from her childhood when she didn’t receive the emotional support she needed from her parents. At the time, in an attempt to make sense of what had happened to her and prevent more pain, Betty created the false narrative that everyone else was better than her.

As a result, Betty battled feelings of inadequacy for the rest of her life. Her deep insecurity and desire to please others caused tremendous suffering in many areas, including her school, career, spiritual life, and personal relationships. Instead of fostering lifelong relationships with her medical school classmates in California, she only studied, believing her Chinese background put her at a disadvantage. Instead of trusting her abilities, she held herself to impossible standardsto the point of burnout in the workplace. No matter the circumstance, Betty resigned herself to believe she was not, and would never be, good enough.

In response to this faulted sense of inadequacy, Betty developed the coping strategy of working harder than necessary. This came at a price, as other priority areas of her life, including fostering relationships and having fun, were lacking as a result. To make up for it, she became a people pleaser. While well-intentioned, this flawed approach caused her much grief and stress over the decades before the Process liberated her.Throughout the three-month course, Betty leaned into her daily journaling to gain a better understanding of her limiting beliefs. By writing in the third person, Betty took on an observer role, enabling her to view her life through an objective lens.

Betty describes the Process as life changing, but most importantly, sustainable. Two years later, Betty is filled with as much joy and happiness as the day she finished the program. She’s told by friends, family and colleagues that she is glowing and her ebullient nature is much more evident.Instead of doubting her abilities and constantly comparing herself to others, Betty knows she’s just as good as anyone else in the world and doesn’t have the prove it to anyone. She’s also finally making up for lost time, putting effort into maintaining her social network and nourishing friendships.

Betty’s results were so profound, she began prescribing the Process in her medical practice. According to Betty, 70% of her patients come to her practice due to mental stress. Although she’s treated patients for chronic issues for years, some just cannot seem to get better. For these few cases, she’s asked Dr. Jayne to guide them through the Process, and the results speak for themselves. As patients go through the program, unearthing limiting beliefs and realizing their self-worth, their energy levels automatically rise. Simultaneously, Betty observes physical responses in clinic. She can see the change on their faces and they are warmer to the touch. The Process has been a wonderful addition to her medical practice.

More than ever, Betty now knows she’s on the right track. And as far as going back to her old ways? Not a chance. As Betty says, “When something so significant happens, it is like a rebirth. One cannot go back to the old self again to undo the rebirth!”